Should You Let Go Of What You Love the Most?
“Even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger”
― Sara Evans
We have the gift of a seesaw mind. It’s made to help us look back but it's just as good to look forward. The game then is to know how to enjoy rocking the plank of life. So join me on the seesaw and let's talk about letting go.
*Letting go involves letting go of a piece of us in something or someone else. That is why it is so hard.
*Letting go is the skill of knowing how to detach. Detach from memories and also detach from the anticipation of outcomes.
*Letting go is a state of mind where you don't mind what happens.
*Letting go is a feeling where you allow and accept whatever shows up.
*Letting go is an attitude where you offer no resistance to what is present.
*Letting go is the act of letting what hurts, go through. Letting go through is how to let go of what you block.
*It's hard to let go. But it’s often harder to hold on. When you find yourself yearning for that face, that touch, that life, that place in the sand, ask yourself- is this longing making me weaker or stronger. That question will guide you from the darkness of dependence into the light of independence.
*Letting go involves breaking/ tearing/dropping/fading/releasing/falling something you are afraid to lose. But what if you also let go of that fear?
*Letting go will lighten whatever you are holding.
*Letting go does not mean you are less or have less. It just realizing that you don’t own any of it.
*Letting go allows you to stop hurting the one you should love the most — yourself.
“You don’t have to let that one thing be the thing that defines you.”― Jojo Moyes
*Letting go should/could induce Saudade.
Saudade is a deep emotional state of nostalgic or profound melancholic longing for an absent something or someone that one cares for and/or loves. Moreover, it often carries a repressed knowledge that the object of longing might never be had again. It is the recollection of feelings, experiences, places, or events that once brought excitement, pleasure, and well-being, which now trigger the senses and make one experience the pain of separation from those joyous sensations. However, it acknowledges that to long for the past would detract from the excitement you feel towards the future.
Although it relates to feelings of melancholy and fond memories of things/people/days gone by, it can be a rush of sadness coupled with a paradoxical joy derived from acceptance of fate and the hope of recovering or substituting what is lost by something that will either fill in the void or provide consolation.
*Letting go is a master class in learning that true love is unconditional.
“Some birds are not meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place, rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.”
― Stephen King
*Letting go is a way to show respect for what is rare and precious to you.
“Most things are forgotten over time. Even the war itself, the life-and-death struggle people went through is now like something from the distant past. We’re so caught up in our everyday lives that events of the past are no longer in orbit around our minds. There are just too many things we have to think about every day, too many new things we have to learn. But still, no matter how much time passes, no matter what takes place in the interim, there are some things we can never assign to oblivion, memories we can never rub away. They remain with us forever, like a touchstone.”
― haruki murakami, Kafka on the Shore
*Letting go creates space for something new to sprout. How can you grow if you don’t remove the plants that have died in your soil?
*Letting go is trusting that we don’t know what we could unfold and become.
Letting go is our most sacred act. It is an offering of our wishes and our desires into the fire of the infinite. It is our way to open ourselves up to the possibilities that lie hidden behind our fears. Letting go is a signpost to freedom from our self. And that is the only freedom that matters.