Reflections on Choosing a Childfree life.

A middle-aged man’s perspective.

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  1. Fate struck in the same spot twice when my father died when I was 11. That kind of happening can zap the zest out of an 11-year-old kid budding to be a man. I felt abandoned. That added to the distaste of parenting like too much salt in your favorite pasta. It felt like a lightning strike on my young stem. The branch that grew from that spot wanted to be independent above all else. Parenting was a mistake in my books. It left kids with zero control and too much responsibility. I was convinced that there was no correlation between growing up and raising a family. It was too risky to raise kids.
  2. Life has a way of manifesting what you imagine. My wife was like me. Offspring of a highly fractious home where the parents were at each other's throats all the time. An unhappy childhood also scars you to see the lack of need to be a parent than the benefits. We together saw little fun in raising kids and more adventure in being a couple that explored the world together.
  1. Living life without roots: We are modern gypsies. We live in one place for a few years and then move to another for work or lifestyle reasons. We decide where we want to go and what we want to own. We don’t worry about saving for the next generation. We travel a lot around the world and don’t spend that much time worrying about being rooted in one place. We have saved up enough money for our retirement and old age to make sure that we can take care of each other as we age.
  2. Make sure you marry your best friend. I was lucky that my wife and I are also best friends. We love doing everything together. We have similar interests and hobbies and we truly enjoy each other's company. This also means we have to watch out for each other's weaknesses. Being child-free gives you the freedom to be child-like for each other.

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