You have to take responsibility for manufacturing your own joy. If you try and outsource this skill, you run the risk of getting lost in the maze of depreciating choices.
I used to buy all my joy from the world outside. Money, Fame, Love, Relationships, Status. I had them all. In fact, I still have them. But I found the more I got them the more I wanted more. It was frankly getting to be an expensive affair.
So I tried a different experiment. To try and make my own jam of joy. One that needed no shopping. …
“Every individual acts and suffers in accordance with his peculiar teleology, which has all the inevitability of fate, so long as he does not understand it.” - Alfred Adler.
While reading Alfred Adler, the 20th century Austrian psychotherapist, i learnt why dealing with neglect in early life can end up ruling and sometimes ruining your life. I will share some of his wisdom on how he recommends dealing with it.
But first let me tell you my story of neglect to set the scene.
I suddenly lost my dad to a heart attack when i was 11. My mother coped…
If material success is not filling you up— you might be enslaved by your `master’ mind. You need to find a way to your `heightened self’.
On the summit of my success, i found the unclimbed mountain of my self.
…I had this shocking realization at the height of my material success.
I am one of those men who spent his youth dreaming of becoming a multi-millionaire. But when I got there I found a spiritual hole. I tried to enjoy the trappings of success for a while but the longer I tried to hold onto my shell, the more…
“Is it possible to wake up some mornings and feel incapable of loving…when you feel nothing…nothing at all.”- a text from a very happy, successful friend this morning.
I was there.
Caged in a gemstone mind.
With a glass full of goal coins and yet desperately thirsty for joy. Unable to find peace no matter how hard I worked. My goals made me gasp for air. I could not answer “what should I aim for in life ?”
The last few years have been a quest to answer this question. I have found many gems in the course of my…
Underneath all my research into resolving my self-doubts, fears and paranoia lies one central search…a search for uncovering my real self. This book found me and gave me some answers. So I thought I should share some of what I found.
“It seems to me that at the bottom each person is asking — who am i, really ? How can i get in touch with this real self, underlying all my surface behaviour? How can i become myself ?”- Carl. R. Rogers
Carl R. Rogers was a professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin and active…
I spend the day on the shores of Imagination, collecting a bag of quotes that inspired me and then I laid them out into themes that made sense to me. Here are 17 ways I found Imagination to be a wonderful gift from nature.
“Our dreams prove that to imagine — to dream about things that have not happened — is among mankind’s deepest needs.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being
“We live in condensations of our imagination”
― Terence McKenna
2. Imagination sharpens your intelligence.
“Scared is what you’re feeling. Brave is what you’re doing.”
― Emma Donoghue, Room
This is my 95th Medium article in the last 12 months. It’s the 95th time I am risking feeling stuck, stupid, and disheartened at the quality of my writing. It’s the 95th time I am doing it despite my feelings. This article explains why, for me, starting again is the best antidote to failing.
Until a couple of years ago, I was a mildly obnoxious corporate manager in a multinational company. I was determined to keep climbing till I hit the Chief Marketing Officer ceiling. …
The sun has finally burned through the sky of snow and the land is dressed in bridal white. The birds have picked the sun on their feathers to the grain on the floor. And my mind has picked the perfect morning to be miserable.
Does it happen to you that your mind is having so much fun at night that it keeps waking you up? I have been struggling with the audacity of my dreams. …
One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious- Carl Jung
I write about the shadow self as I try to tame it in myself. It is the greatest battle that I have undertaken in my life. The end game I seek is to tame the beast inside. So that we can both fly.
The jury is out if I will survive. In any case,…here are my notes from the mind-field. My guru on this journey is Carl Jung. And I quote him like a giddy puppy in love with his master.
“People are unhappy in large part because they are confused about what is valuable.”
A job title identity is like putting your money in a savings account. It’s safe and secure. It’s easily accessible. It’s great for emergencies. It serves you and your family through thick and thin.
A job title identity keeps you pegged to the laws of the masses. They follow the average rise and fall of circumstances and opportunities. They give you the security of the herd. It’s like feeling safe against getting mugged while traveling in a crowded underground London tube.
A job title…